It turns out the Dove Beauty Ad - the ones with the guy who looks like a Mafia Hit man - are wrong.
In the video, a small group of women are asked to describe their faces to a person whom they cannot see. The person is a forensic artist who is there to draw pictures of the women based on their verbal descriptions. A curtain separates the artist and the women, and they never see each other.
The idea is quite appealing. Perhaps too many women are unhappy with their looks. It would be a big relief if we all suddenly realized, like Christian Andersen’s ugly duckling, that we are in fact beautiful.
However, what Dove is suggesting is not actually true. The evidence from psychological research suggests instead that we tend to think of our appearance in ways that are more flattering than are warranted. This seems to be part of a broader human tendency to see ourselves through rose colored glasses. Most of us think that we are better than we actually are — not just physically, but in every way.
Inflated perceptions of one’s physical appearance is a manifestation of a general phenomenon psychologists call “self-enhancement.”
For example 94% of college professors, say that they do above-average work.
Researchers have shown that confidence plays a role in determining whom people choose as leaders and romantic partners. Confident people are believed moreand their advice is more likely to be followed.
Feminists call this tendency "Mansplaining" and they like to entrap men into doing this so they can mock and humiliate them at some point.
But women like to make themselves look more attractive by obsessive body grooming, makeup etc - thereby trapping a mate.
Which is better? It doesn't matter until someone tries to tell you only one side counts.
Here's the parody.