Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Wednesday, September 09, 2009
In his aptly-titled book I Don't Want to Talk About It -- Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression (Scribner, $17.50) Harvard psychotherapist Terrence Real calls chronic depression a "silent epidemic in men." He notes the "problems that we think of as typically male--difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behaviour, and rage -- are really attempts to escape depression."
Real explains that "women tend to internalize pain,"while "boys, and later men, tend to externalize pain: they are more likely to feel victimized by others and to discharge distress through action." Hence the statistics, which show that women attempt suicide more often than men, yet males actually kill themselves at a rate three to four times higher than females.
Tuesday, September 08, 2009
I think this is a classic case of her playing one mother off against the father - for a change - but I do not for a second think it is a wise idea. Perhaps the father is gambling on her changing her mind after a few weeks crossing the North Atlantic, or him having to come to her aid somehow cementing their bond but given my small sailing experience a 13 year old - girl or boy - lacks the emotional maturity to withstand a solo around the world journey. This is a bad idea and this father should reconsider very carefully what he is doing - and why before he regrets it for the rest of his life. That is what I think anyways.
"Laura has divorced parents and it is very normal for a child of this age to be very loyal to the parent (he or she) is living with," Child Protection spokesman Richard Bakker told The Associated Press.For once, I agree.
Remembering that he is an unrepentant Libertarian in Montana should colour strict adherence to his advice - but I think there are some similarities to the Canadian experience. His main points are:
- plead the fifth (if this is not a comedy routine) but remember - not in Canada! However under Sec 7 of The Canadian Charter of Rights we do have the right to remain silent (R. vs Heywood).
- nothing you say in your favour can be used to help you at trial, but anything else will definitely be used against you.
- 98% confession rate.
- develop probable cause and give the crown a GREAT CASE
- many ways to get people to incriminate themselves, and the police are trained to do this.
- Police do NOT do Interrogations (that is a bad, mean Nazi term) they do Interviews.
- An Apology letter as a written confession = convicted.
... and here is an uncooperative women who is tazed after being stopped for speeding (but I think she deserves it for stupidity - don't ever say you weren't warned. Certainly, a man would not have got such a easy time of it.)
However, this post gives a pretty good try at deconstructing a book ("The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right" by Sherrie Schneider and Ellen Fein) that I had heard about many years ago (but of course never read - and a good thing too) that caused a huge degree of excitement among the "Oprah set". That of course was in 1995 (as in that is soo 1995!) so M. BARDAMU (who, if this was 1763 - would closely mirror infamous libertine Marquis de Sade) updates us with the other most recent "Girl Guide" (and movie) entitled "He's Just Not That Into You".
He can be very entertaining, but be warned - this is a very twisted view of life and his gutter language reflects it.
Wednesday, September 02, 2009
Officials Weigh Circumcision to Fight H.I.V. RiskOhh - well, that's OK then. (And what about a simpler intervention - maybe one that allows personal choice and responsibility - like abstinence or condoms? Sorry, what was I thinking!)
By RONI CARYN RABIN - August 23, 2009
Public health officials are considering promoting routine circumcision for all baby boys born in the United States to reduce the spread of H.I.V., the virus that causes AIDS.
Experts are also considering whether the surgery should be offered to adult heterosexual men whose sexual practices put them at high risk of infection. But they acknowledge that a circumcision drive in the United States would be unlikely to have a drastic impact: the procedure does not seem to protect those at greatest risk here, men who have sex with men.
Some 79 percent of adult American men are already circumcised, public health officials say but circumcision rates have fallen in part because the American Academy of Pediatrics, which sets the guidelines for infant care, does not endorse routine circumcision. Its policy says that circumcision is "not essential to the child's current well-being," and as a result, many state Medicaid programs do not cover the operation.
So 79% pay for it themselves now, but after it becomes a "public health issue' the government will pay. Sort of sounds like the early days of abortion on demand.
[Hattip to Calypsoparakeet]